Appreciate the value of forgiveness. Ask yourself: what does my grievance, my resentment, cost me? Cost others I care about? What would it be like to lay those burdens down?
What do you feel when someone thanks you for something? For a comment in a meeting, a task done at home, an extra step taken, an encouraging word.
If you say what’s true, and say it clearly and kindly, you get one kind of result. But if you speak falsely, you get different results: unnecessary conflicts, lost opportunities.
Keep your purpose close to your heart. And then every day, as soon as you remember, recommit to your life’s purpose.
Much of the time the fear we trigger in others is mild but people can feel threatened by stimuli they’re not actually aware of.
It may feel necessary to distance yourself from another person for awhile or forever but in general, you never have to put anyone out of your heart.
Keep these points in mind: be mindful of tone, consider true purpose, lay a good foundation, gentle your body, don’t use don’t use inflammatory language, say what needs to be said.
See the what is best in others—it’s a simple but very powerful way to feel happier and more confident, and become more loving and more productive in the world.
It shows you’re paying attention, it gets things out in the open and it slows emotional conversations.
You have to find peace in your heart, not out there in the world. A peace that comes from seeing clearly and focusing on good things in your own life garden, and from letting go.