You don’t realize that your unconscious hurt and shame are the puppeteers that are controlling your actions.
The lack of healthy relationship interdependence can explain the intense loneliness of those experiencing perfectly hidden depression.
Realize she may not have the capacity of understanding the impact she’s having on you. She’s not withholding something from you; she’s likely incapable of giving it.
Resolving conflict within the therapeutic relationship can be very empowering.
Grief comes in waves. Just when you think the tide is going out and you’ve survived another day, a rogue wave will hit you.
An adaptation that was likely created as protection, as emotional survival, now has morphed into a fear of being found out — and imposter syndrome is created.
“I have a perfect-looking life. I fear anyone seeing me as out of control. It’s why I’m successful. But something is cracking open—and it scares me.”
I heard a shaming voice, loud and clear. My voice, not my mother’s. “You’re short and look stupid in these. You need to wear a heel. How could you not care about the way you look?”
“No one in a million years would have expected this from him. If this could happen to him, it could happen to anyone.”
Ask questions that would reveal problems with vulnerability.